Not All At Once

Last week, I was on the phone with the mom of an alumna with whom I remain close and we were talking about balance and the tendency of some women to take on too much. She remarked that she once heard Madeline Kunin (former Governor of Vermont and generally incredible woman) say that “Of course women can have it all. Just not at once.” That quote has hung with me since our conversation.

I am rarely overwhelmed by my schedule. In the past week, however, I’ve felt a bit overbooked and increasingly like I’m doing a sh*tty job at all my commitments. As I struggled out the door for my workout on Monday, feeling like I should remain tied to my desk instead of running, I finally admitted that something had to give, at least for the next few weeks.

Right now, my priorities are the Boards and MMU Nordic. The former is self-evident from a career perspective. The latter reflects a core priority in my life: give back to the community that raised me. Every season of coaching is special but when a State Championship is likely and you have three and four year skiers who have given their all to get here, they deserve your all right back.

By the end of my workout, I’d come up with a temporary solution (which I suppose made the whole run worth it). Until the end of ski season, I’ll use ski practice as my recovery days. I have two days a week slotted in as recovery runs and since the purpose of a recovery run is to just move, skiing will do just fine. This saves me a double workout twice a week and takes some pressure off. Is it the most specific workout for running? No. But it will have to do. Yesterday was an incredible day of skiing and it was made even better by being able to enjoy it for what it was, not worrying about when I was going to get my run in.

What compromises have you made to better fit running into your life?

7 thoughts on “Not All At Once

  1. klregan

    This is a really insightful post. I feel this way often and I end up coming short on a lot of things. I’ve definitely given up social time with friends in order to fit runs in. Glad to know that I’m not alone in feeling this way.

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    1. runnerunderpressure

      I think that perhaps the real mark of being a “grown up” is realizing that no one has it all together or can do it all, ourselves included. A little more kindness to ourselves is definitely called for!

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  2. Ryan

    The main compromises/concessions I make to running are drastically cutting strength training and sleeping in. The first couple weeks of cutting lifting in favor of more running are mentally tough and uncomfortable, but I just have to keep reminding myself that I have quickly regained strength losses due to marathon training in the past and running more is the only way to get the times I want. Sleeping in doesn’t really happen when you have a 5 year old, but from now through May there will always be a 5:xx not a 6:xx on the clock when I get up. I’d rather deal with early wake-ups than run at night and feel guilty about cutting family time or dog walking time.

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    1. runnerunderpressure

      I’m so impressed by all my running peeps who balance mileage and kids. It’s a whole new ballgame and for almost everyone I know, they’ve found a great balance of staying active and getting faster while making sure their families are front and center. Sorry about those 5:xx though. I’m up with you, if that makes you feel any better!

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  3. Pure Michigan Runner

    I’m trying to change my attitude to be more relaxed about this kind of stuff. Doing it all is physically impossible. If it makes you feel any better, I too feel like I have 4,000 jobs (mom, employee, runner, housekeeper, etc.) and I’m mediocre at all of them.

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    1. runnerunderpressure

      Do you ever wish you were just someone who could be mediocre and not care?! Wouldn’t that be glorious! Joking aside, I think what I learn the farther I creep into my 30s is that we’re all just doing the best we can…

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      1. Pure Michigan Runner

        Totally! ESPECIALLY when it comes to running. A few years ago, when I was just starting out running again after a long hiatus, I didn’t stress about weekly mileage, missing occasional workouts, and twinges, aches and pains. I was just happy to be out there when I could, and it was a huge stress reliever. Now I often feel like it contributes to my stress level! I am trying to figure out how I can reverse that.

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